And They Knew Each Other: The End of Sexual Violence

And They Knew Each Other: The End of Sexual Violence

by Sabine Lichtenfels and Dieter Duhm

This book is the essence of the authors’ life experience and more than 40 years of work on establishing a new human and social foundation for a future culture of peace. It contains maybe the deepest insights which can be given today about love, sexuality and partnership.

Profound, thought provoking and beautifully written, with far reaching positive implications for our well being as humans.
Diana Richardson

I ordered a copy of “And They Knew Each Other” and read it. It gives me such great hope, and is such a beautifully written book, that I immediately ordered more to give them to others. My hope is that each reading of this book continue to diminish the field of patriarchy.
Will Smith, Canada




The Eros of the sexes is the messenger of an endless cosmic and earthly joy. Sexual energy is pure life energy, and wherever sex and love come together, we find what all people long for more than anything else: an embodiment of ecstasy, bliss, a zest for life and the power of action. Sometimes I can only thank Creation for this gift.

Dieter Duhm

What would have happened if at that time in paradise Adam and Eve had been allowed to “know each other” instead of being punished and expelled for this wish? How different Genesis (the story of Creation) would have developed had it not started with the fall of man but with the love between man and woman?

This book circles around a new starting point for peace between the genders and from there proposes a new “genesis”. The authors do not take just a theoretical standpoint but draw on more than 40 years of life experience and work as founders and members of a radical community project. They offer a new, multi-faceted paradigm of the relationship between men and women. With this new paradigm they turn the switch in the primary settings within the social structures of our time.

We know from chaos theory and research in other scientific areas that very small changes in an equation can lead to totally different final results. This is also true in the human milieu. If the paradigm presented in this book start to be accepted by more and more people, the evolution of mankind can change direction to develop into a deeply humane human being, who is able to access huge creativity in order to build a totally peaceful society. There will be no more losers, no suppression of other peoples, no cruelty against animals, no sexual violence, no fear, no wars.

While this might sound like a nice fairy tale, it is in fact a real possibility.

The book is published at exactly the right time. The global war between the genders has reached a peak. The foundations of our societies are breaking. Our world has become leaderless and the consequences are hysteria, loss of orientation, blame and accusations of either secret or open violence.

It is right at this point where the book offers new information and patterns of interpretation. The authors do not aim to repair a broken system. They do not give advice as to how shattered relationships can be restored nor do they give manuals for a more satisfying sexual life. Instead they build, step by step, thought by thought, a new system.

They liberate the areas of love and sexuality from our capitalist thought system in which everything is reduced to the value of goods, degraded to a need must be satisfied. Instead they locate the core areas of our human existence in the universal and sacred matrix from which all life originates. They show that within this matrix life follows a different logic and ethics which humankind can start to learn again.

From this perspective the authors shed light into the different aspects of humanity’s love life: into the history of patriarchy, into the collective trauma, into the problem of our love relationships, into the phenomena of jealousy and fear of loss, into the relationship between mother and son, daughter and father. They do not analyse what exists but rather lead their readers towards healing. They write about a new female consciousness, about the affirmation of our wild sexual nature, about a global uprising which will ‘free love from the cross’. Tears of healing and insight will flow when men and women can recognize each other in the light cast by this book. A wave of relief will go around the planet as humankind regains a power which is stronger than violence. The way is free for a culture of partnership. From now on trust between humans and all fellow creatures is the ferment of life.


What does faithfulness mean to you?
Interview in German with english subtitles.

The Female Voice (Video)

A chapter of the book read and spoken (in German) by the author Sabine Lichtenfels and other women with English subtitles and beautiful images and music!

Sabine Lichtenfels was born into a family of artists in 1954. From a very early age she was concerned with questions of love and was connected to Jesus as a revolutionary role model. Already at 16 years old she envisioned “a village in which all lovers live together and no one has to abandon each other.” She studied theology, married and gave birth to her first daughter. In 1978 she met Dieter Duhm and along with their common friend, Charly Rainer Ehrenpreis, she supported in founding the Healing Biotopes Project. Almost every year since 2005 a Grace Pilgrimage takes place, mostly in crisis areas such as Colombia or the Middle East. Also in 2005 she was nominated by a Swiss initiative for the Nobel Prize as one of the worldwide “1000 Women for Peace.” In Tamera she leads the Global Love School and “Terra Deva,” the department for spiritual research. Sabine Lichtenfels is the mother of two daughters and the grandmother of three grandchildren. Learn more on Our Authors...

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Dieter Duhm was born in 1942 in Berlin, Germany. He has a PhD in sociology, is an art historian, author and psychoanalyst. He is the initiator of the “Healing Biotopes Plan” – a global peace plan. In 1995 he founded the peace research center Tamera in Portugal together with the theologian Sabine Lichtenfels and others. Today Tamera has approximately 200 co-workers. Dieter Duhm has dedicated his life to create an effective forum for a global peace initiative that can be a match for the destructive forces of the capitalistic globalization. Learn more on Our Authors...

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